Look, Uncle … my little asshole.
Look how it’s quivering … spank it!
It’s as soft as a mouth …
--From an illustration by Milo
The voluminous fiction and nonfiction literature on spanking includes very little about asshole spanking, although here and there I’ve found a reference (often veiled). I remember Will Henry, the greatest creator of lifelike spanking vignettes, mentioning a “groove strap” as an ultimate punishment; I remember a letter in Mr magazine mentioning that one parent might hold an errant teenage daughter’s butt cheeks apart while the other parent administered a punishment between them (I put this in the "fiction" category also). But the actual event was not described nor was the asshole explicitly mentioned.
Asshole spanking is a taboo within the larger taboo of spanking itself. Yet I believe it is of much wider interest than its general neglect suggests.
There is first the question of what is in fact “most intimate," and here I am going to speak of women even though (almost) everyone has an asshole. When we speak of a woman's body, you may think that her most intimate area is her pussy. But in my experience, a woman is far more likely to be comfortable spreading her legs to reveal her pussy than spreading her bottom cheeks to expose her delightful puckered rosette. So I believe that asshole spanking is indeed the most intimate punishment. Further, while the big tent of BDSM includes pussy spanking (along with nipple squeezing, diapering, mummification, and on and on), all of that is outside the purview of this web site. The asshole is indisputably part of the ass, and I therefore judge asshole spanking to be a legitimate variant of spanking more generally.
The realization that asshole punishment might be more than a micro-niche came to me slowly. I don’t remember any woman ever asking me to spank her asshole, as suggested by the niece in the epigraph to this page. But when I started suggesting it, I found a surprising number of women were very interested in at least seeing what it was like; and having enjoyed a mild introductory asshole spanking, were eager to experience more.
Here are the kinds of reactions I’ve been getting: I asked one woman how she would feel about being spanked on her asshole, and she replied, “anything related to my asshole is erotic for me.” I asked another woman, whom I had already spanked this way, if she would prefer, in future, to be spanked on her ass or her asshole; she said, “I want both!”
Some of the asshole spankings I've administered are included in the real spankings featured on this web site, including--
Satia-- Doc Takes a Turn and The Special Event
Cat-- 5. Hold Your Cheeks Apart
steph-- Spread Your Legs Apart
You can do lots of things to assholes besides spank them. One popular activity is figging, which is the application of objects or substances (typically ginger root) to the asshole that result in burning discomfort. Figging can be great fun; there are web sites that discuss it in detail, so I will just link to the most descriptive here rather than repeat what it says: http://www.bestslavetraining.com/figging.htm.
Back to spanking. The asshole should be punished with great care, for it is essential to civilization as we know it. It is able to repair itself after any commonplace injury, but there are limits. Most of the limits are obvious: Don’t cut the asshole. Don’t burn the asshole. Don’t force the asshole open faster or wider than its owner’s comfort permits. Please.
But what about spanking it? Is that risky?
I believe it is safe to administer a mild-to-moderate hand spanking to the asshole. This may hurt, perhaps quite a lot, and that is fine. I would, however, be uneasy with any asshole punishment that causes severe pain. Remember the “mild to moderate” part, please, and I strongly suggest that you start out simply mild.
It is equally safe to administer an asshole spanking of the same intensity with a suitable implement. By “suitable” I mean something that won’t cut or tear and is relatively light: a spatula with a flexible rubber tip would be good, for example, or a belt applied with an appropriate degree of force.
A proper asshole spanking is a three-handed affair, with one person spreading the victim’s bottom cheeks well apart and another doing the spanking. The spankee may be enlisted to take on the job of spreading her cheeks, or this responsibility may be delegated to a trusted family member or friend. Another option would be using tape to hold her cheeks apart; I haven’t done this, but it is on my list of things to try. If you have none of these options you can certainly pull one cheek well to the side and whack away at the elusive target with your other hand.
When I first started this entertaining activity I was surprised and somewhat alarmed at the amount of bruising that developed in and around my victims’ assholes, but no harm eventuated from this. I’ve concluded that this area just bruises easily, perhaps because it is ordinarily so securely out of harm’s way. In any case, bruising by itself is not dangerous.
How much further can this go? How much can the asshole safely be punished? I don’t know the answer. If you want to explore beyond the rather modest guidelines I present here, please take small, careful steps. Let’s keep asshole spanking safe and fun.
I send copies of this essay to a couple of friends, and one responded as follows:
So you think you spank with only mild or moderate intensity on the asshole. That is not exactly how my asshole remembers it -- in Boston particularly. I think -- know -- you were using your left hand, the one that looks like a hand but feels like a paddle, and I would call the intensity severe. I was out of my mind with torment. I could feel the pain soar up to my chest where it caught my breath and stayed there, making breathing impossible, until you stopped.
No, moderate is not quite the word I would use. But it is your site after all, you can say whatever you want, and it's better to err on the side of caution anyway. ;)
And I'm glad you are writing about it -- maybe you will get it out of your system that way. ;)
Evidently "mild to moderate" is all in the eye of the beholder, or the asshole of the receiver . . .