Many people are interested in spanking, and very likely one of them would be a perfect match for you. So how do you meet him or her? As with anything else in life, the more effort you put into this project, the more likely you are to succeed.
Take advantage of all the available ways to meet people.
Find out where the local BDSM groups meet and go to their meetings. I don't care if you are interested in bondage or not; unless there is a spanking-specific group in your area, BDSM is as close as it gets, which means the people who might want to meet for spanking may well be at the BDSM events. Go!
If you can afford it, go to the national spanking meetings: Crimson Moon in Chicago, Shadow Lane in Los Angeles, and Bottoms Up in Dallas.
Get online. Check out the kinky personals. Are you turned off by bondage.com's emphasis on bondage? By alt.com's raunch? Me too! But since these are as close as the world gets to offering spanking personal ads that work, you need to overcome your reluctance and plunge right in. And try the straight personals (yahoo, etc.) adding "spanking" or, for those that censor ads, using code words like "discipline."
Join the online spanking discussion groups. Meet people online who share your interests. Be polite. Be considerate. Be a gentleman (if you are male, that is). Talk about common interests. Be useful.
Put out feelers about spanking with people you meet in other settings. That redhead in the church choir might be dying to be spanked. Bring that possibility into your casual conversation after the service. Try!
I'm not actively pursuing these avenues now, since women who are interested in being spanked contact me directly, through this web site. But until about a year ago, the methods I describe here are all that I had. They took a lot of time and energy. I sent countless e-mails. I contributed to scores of threads on bondage.com. I went to one party after the next where I felt like a fifth wheel. My hopes were raised, and then dashed, time and time again. It wasn't easy.
I kept at it.
And you know what? It worked!
This is how I met Abby. This is how I met Sandy. This is how I met kate. This is how I met Phoenix. This is how I met gina.
People write me regularly, asking for help finding a spanking partner...here's a recent example, one of many:
Hello, I was wondering if you could provide any woman that enjoy being paddled. This would be for punishment spanking only. The swats would be full force. I really enjoy paddling women. I have a couple of ladies that I spank on a regular basis but I am looking for more. It is so hard to find women in Houston that like being spanked. So I was wondering if you could help out with this. I would be will to compensate you for this. Anyway Thanks, for your time.
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I'm sorry--but I don't have a stable of spanking partners to pass out (whether you compensate me or not!).
If you've tried everything I suggest and you're getting nowhere, I'm more than happy to discuss your situation. But most often the folks who write me have not taken these basic steps.
I can't distribute women (or men, for that matter) like rental cars. I can only provide advice, and this is it, right here, for all the world to see.