You as a person are unique, but the particular type of spanking experience you crave is shared by many others. Here are my thoughts on connecting with someone so you can turn fantasy into reality. First, however, a few words about you with particular attention to women's concerns.
Your age
You are how old you are. It's that simple. Everyone over 30 wishes they were younger when they're dating. It's good mental exercise, like meditation, to confront your age head on, stare it down, and then move on to something that is within your control.
If you are a man, it's tacky to proposition women who are a lot younger than you unless they indicate a clear interest in being approached by (relatively) older men. That college student doesn't want to learn about kinky sex from you, no matter how vast your experience or how fast your BMW. She wants to learn with the boy who is thirty years younger than you. That's how life is.
Your appearance--particularly for women
Women worry about appearance more than men. I'm sure this is in part because of the media's continuous bombardment of us all with living manikins (male and female) who have been photoshopped to perfection. Most men, at least the men you are interested in meeting, take this all in stride. When they close the magazine or turn off the TV, they don't expect you to have a flawless complexion, perky breasts, and a spankable ass, at least not by the standards that the media portray as spankable. That's true even within this web site. The pictures I post show women with great butts, but that doesn't mean that you have to have a great butt to be a great spanking partner; far from it. Most of the women I've been fortunate enough to spank have been heavier than the Surgeon General recommends, and I've found pleasure with every single one. And if your ass is on the thin side, not "ripely rounded" or "begging for a spanking"? It doesn't matter! It's a real ass, connected to a real woman, and it's your mind and heart and soul that will make you a good spanking partner. Your ass is the least important part of the package. If you want to make yourself more attractive, sure, you can do butt-toning exercises, but I recommend taking a course in philosophy or volunteering at a shelter for the homeless or doing door to door campaigning for your favorite political cause.
The same thing is true for your makeup and clothes. I've had perfectly sane-appearing women tell me they are afraid they'll show up for a spanking with a run in their stocking, or a spot on their thigh that the razor skipped. If you have misgivings like this, please read this as often as it takes to sink in. Men don't care! Make yourself up in whatever reasonable way you usually do, hold your head up, and have fun. The men don't sweat the details so you shouldn't either.
Where to meet people
You can meet potential spanking partners in a variety of settings, either online or off. Some venues are dedicated exclusively to spanking, and they of course are suitable, but it’s important to also consider those that are BDSM-themed. You might be interested in some kink activity beyond spanking, and spankophiles are frequent at BDSM events and web sites. As an online example, spanking.com is devoted to spanking but is not as good a source of partners as bondage.com (more on these sites later).
Suitable Matches
Finding a spanking partner is very much like finding a partner for romance (whether long term or of the one-night-stand variety). The usual suitability considerations apply.
Here as elsewhere, most men find it challenging to win the affection of beautiful young women. Remember this (men, are you listening?) as you search.
The Battle of the Sexes . . .
in kink dating is over—the women won. In the world at large, women slightly outnumber men. In kink circles, however—and especially online—there are many more men than women. I’m not sure of the explanation; perhaps women are more concerned about the safety of meeting someone online. Whatever the reason, there’s no doubt of the data.
I once tallied the numbers for heterosexuals with profiles on bondage.com in one state (I think it was Arizona). Male tops outnumbered female subs by 3 to 1, and male subs outnumbered female tops by 9 to 1. This doesn’t mean that women have an easy time finding suitable partners, but men would do well to keep this imbalance in mind. If you are a male sub looking for a woman to spank you, it can be done, but I can promise it will take time and effort. Finding a woman to spank is only marginally easier.
This may be the 21st century, but whether it’s online or at a party, the man still usually approaches the woman.