All of this web site is intended to be useful to the newcomer. This section starts with some particularly important topics (and some experienced players will find information of value here, too).
I’ve tried to keep my language readily understandable. The words I use generally reflect standard usage within the BDSM community; refer to The Deviants' Dictionary (http://public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/index.html) if there are words whose meaning is not intuitively obvious to you.
Wikipedia also has some good BDSM definitions, including Top and Bottom.
OK, on to your situation as a newcomer to real life spankings. What are your prospects for getting some spanking action as a newcomer?
There is little disadvantage to being a new sub. For every top who wants an experienced sub, there is another who accepts or even prefers a newcomer.
But what of the new top?
Rest assured, you will also find a partner. If you go to play parties you will likely meet subs who will be happy to get you off on the right foot. If you are meeting people online, be up front about your inexperience and if your approach is otherwise sound you will still find partners.
If you're interested in the nuts and bolts of meeting someone and how spankings work, then the pages in this and the other sections in About Spanking
have a lot of information.
And, in this section, some comments are directed specifically to the newcomer who is hoping for or anticipating his or her first real life spanking experience.
Children
This is not the place to debate whether or not children should be spanked.
There are people for whom spanking has no erotic overtones, and I can understand them debating whether spanking children is an appropriate part of family life today. Certainly spanking was long a customary part of childhood across the globe and still is viewed as usual and customary in many places.
However, I would never dream of being involved in any spanking of children. I would never participate in it, and I will never promote it or discuss it on this web site.
Fantasies are different, particularly fantasies involving teenagers who are below the age of consent but above the age of desire. Fiction is OK. But not the reality, not here.