Hello Doc,
I found your website when I went to Patty's Paddles on ebay and followed the
link. I really don't know what to say. I've been interested in spanking and
being spanked most of my life but was so horrified by it that I never let anyone
know. I am now in my early 50's and 15 years into my second marriage. I finally
let my husband in on the secret about a month ago.
I've found your website very informative and I plan to ask my husband to read
it. He really doesn't understand my need to be spanked, especially paddled. I am
a strong independent woman who finds great excitement from being taken over his
knee. So far I haven't gotten what I really want but we are getting there. I
told him surprise was the key, I don't want to be asked if I want a spanking and
how hard. YES...and very. Just harder and longer than I want would be fine. We
have great sex afterward.
I am still at odds as to why I liked to be spanked other than it is exciting,
and I am not in control of the situation. I think it is extremely erotic and
spanking has renewed a postmenopausal sex life. If it weren't attached so much
to porn maybe I wouldn't still be ashamed of it. It took everything in me to
finally say yes when my husband asked me if I liked to be spanked. It sounds so
awful. I also like to give him a few whacks, just because. I think his backside
looks quite sexy bright red. He hates it but loves what comes afterwards.
I wish I still had the young body I used to have. The only thing positive I've
gained with getting older is a larger, spankable backside.
Well, I've bared my soul to a perfect stranger, I hope it's safe with you.
Thanks again for the wisdom and making me feel almost normal in my desires.
GX
Dear GX,
Thanks so much for writing.
We can all relate to that wish. The only glitch is, you'd have to have the inexperienced mind that you once had as well; not to mention the fact that going backward is against the rules. So I'm glad you are doing what you can with what you have!
Good luck and write again if you feel like it.
Doc