Waiting
Because Ella lives with other students, I invited her to my hotel room for her punishments. On the first day, I spanked her three times. Twice were purely erotic, but the third time was harder and hurt her. She loved it, and she returned to my hotel room a couple of days later. The spankings that followed were more intense – but only whetted her appetite, as she volunteered for more of this severe treatment when I visited again three months later.
Most women respond to specific phrases, positions, and implements – these are triggers for their erotic response, and I’ve learned over time how my use of these triggers can augment their excitement. Ella is particularly turned on by being called “naughty,” and the words “spank” and “spanking” make her melt. She had told me about these triggers, I had made a mental note, and I employed them when we were together. She refers to this when she describes what I say to her, as for instance –
"You need spanking," ohhhh mmy... "you need to have your naughty bottom spanked," oooohhhh my goodness... " just like a little girl, because you are a little girl..." mmmmmmmmmmmm!! You keep saying these things and pushing me further and further to the brink... I recognize elements of the dialogue I sent you... :)
Ella also loves being forced to ask for what she craves – such as being spanked, or having her panties pulled down. You can hear her excitement in the dialogue – and read about it in her notes. And like many submissive women, she also wanted to please me. It’s the top’s job to please both the woman and himself, and that often includes insisting on activities that she appears to be reluctant to do.
This dynamic led to the one occasion in our interactions in which I misjudged her desires. During Everything, I spanked Ella in a position that I knew might be humiliating – but thought she would also find exciting. I couldn’t tell at the time what her objections indicated (and remember that she did have a safeword, and didn’t use it). Afterward, she told me that this was one part of the scene that didn’t work for her. This sort of misjudgment is inevitable now and then in domination/submission scenes; we learn what works for each other partly by negotiation, but also partly by trial and error; and so long as both people are doing their best to make it work for the other, we can usually take it in stride. And, of course, I won’t make her assume that particular position again.
I find the negotiations and emotions that lead up to a spanking to be fascinating, and I’m including Ella’s thoughts and reactions around the time of first meeting in the first link below; I particularly recommend to you trish's e-mail comment, at Building toward her punishment.
If you would rather get right to the spankings, go to Ellas Introduction.