Write and tell me you want to explore spankings with me. Feel free to start with a brief note, there will be plenty of time for all the details later.
I’m going to want to see photos that show your face and body (no, not nude!). I’m not an appearance elitist, and I’ve spanked plenty of women who didn't have pretty faces, who were over or under their ideal weight, or who were not conventionally beautiful in one way or another. That’s not a problem. But I need to know what you look like to make our conversations real. And sometimes appearance is a deal breaker; I remember one woman who looked like my sister’s identical twin. Thank you, but spanking my sister is not on the agenda!
There are no rules about how long we have to correspond before you decide to visit--but we do have to spend enough time to feel comfortable with each other.
One woman wrote, "I want to fit in with your culture and your group but the truth is I live a pretty darn vanilla existence."
I responded, "You don’t have to! I do not want to introduce you to BDSM culture; nothing is further from my mind. I want to help you make your dreams come true."
You can learn quite a lot about me without writing me . . . here's how.
First, take the time to browse through more of this web site. "About spanking" of course describes my philosophy of spanking relationships and spanking itself. The descriptions of the real life spankings I give often have some introductory comments about what relationship the woman and I had beforehand, and how I knew how hard and how long to spank her. And you should read every word in "About me," it will answer many of your questions.
Second, you should consider becoming a member of bondage.com. Here's why, and here's how.
You can get a free membership if you don't mind getting messages urging you to pay money to upgrade your membership. I have never heard of anyone having real problems because they were bondage.com members. And it will serve you in several ways.
One thing that will happen when you open your own profile in bondage.com is you will immediately get lots of emails from men. The content will vary all the way from delightful to churlish. If you are hoping to meet someone through this venue, that's a good thing.
If you are not interested in using bondage.com to find potential spanking partners, these emails will be a pain in the butt. Here is how to avoid that--it's all in how you register.
This method of registration will get you the electronic equivalent of a floppy hat and big sunglasses, so that you are unnoticed by the rest of the world.
Open www.bondage.com. Go to the "free registration" section.
Give your birthdate as 1930. Not a lot of men will be interested in a woman in her eighties.
And list your country of origin as Uzbekistan or Vanauta (where the heck is that?). Now nobody, or nearly nobody, will proposition you and you can browse unmolested. If someone propositions you online, they'd better be speaking in Uzbeki!