I am very fortunate to be good friends with Sarah, whose spanking talents are widely known. If you are curious about what it’s like to be spanked by both a man and a woman, or by a woman alone, Sarah and I may be able to arrange this. Contact me if you are interested in learning more.
If you are a woman, you can bring a girlfriend and I can spank you both. Or perhaps she wants to watch you being spanked but doesn’t want a spanking herself. That’s fine.
If you are a woman, and want me to spank you in front of your boyfriend or husband, or if you are a man, and want me to spank your girlfriend or wife, that is something I consider on a case-by-case basis.
Here's a note along those general lines that I received not long ago:
Hello Doc:
I am inquiring about your services for my wife as I have a fantasy to watch her get spanked only by a professional. She is not aware of this fantasy and
may not even be interested. I would like to be involved as well and watch her in various positions.
We are very normal, white collar business people who have never crossed the line. Any way it's a long shot...but you never know.
If you have a moment, please send me examples of what you can offer, ideas, etc.Byron
Dear Byron,
Thanks for writing. You’re right that this is a long shot, and too often this sort of idea ends in disaster of one flavor or another. On the other hand, if we take things one careful step at a time it can be not merely successful, but exciting for us all. Here’s what you need to know.
Scenarios
You asked about examples, ideas, etc. Anything you have dreamed about or read about, so long as it’s consensual for each of the three of us, is within the realm of possibility. So what we do will be very much dependant on what you and your wife want, but I can suggest a few places to start.
I will certainly spank her over my knees. All the pictures you see are of the man sitting on a chair, the woman over his lap with her feet and hands touching the floor. This is fine for a quick spanking for a limber woman, but not for anything more prolonged. That’s why I am normally sitting on a bed with her over my lap; that way her chest and legs are supported and her head isn’t hanging down with blood rushing into it.
She can also be positioned on the foam wedge on my bed; that elevates her ass nicely, or bent over the arm of the couch. If you enjoy seeing her in different positions there are lots of other possibilities.
While I’m spanking her you will be just watching some of the time, but more likely you’ll be active. You might be kissing her while I spank her, or you might be restraining her so she can’t get away. If you want to spank her as well, I would enjoy seeing that.
The unspoken question in all of this is, “What about sex?” . . . where by “sex” I mean anything from French kissing on up, involving either you and her or me and her.
Although there are some couples who want to keep all of the spanking activity purely disciplinary, it’s more common to have some sexual activity along with the spanking or after it. I’m fine if you and she want to keep sex out of the picture entirely. If you’re interested in adding some sex to the mix once we are comfortable with each other, I am willing to consider that, but it’s too early for us to try to work out those details now. I just want to mention sex now so it doesn’t become a surprise issue later.
Stages of negotiation and meeting
We begin, of course, with e-mail, which is good for making sure that everyone is on the same page in terms of the kind of activities we might start with and for getting a general sense of each other. Of course we exchange photos, the more the better.
If our e-mail discussions are promising, then we have at least one phone conversation; the phone’s immediacy provides a different set of clues to compatibility. And then we meet and I spank her? No, I won’t give your wife a significant spanking until the third time we’ve met. Here’s how that works.
If you live in or near Houston, we move on to the first meeting, which is for lunch or dinner in a quiet restaurant where we can talk freely. After the meal we go home and decide whether we want to go further. This meeting is to check out the in-person chemistry and of course to talk more about what we hope for and what we want to avoid.
The second meeting is for an introductory spanking. We do this in whatever fashion is most comfortable for your wife, in terms of clothing, implements, position, and duration, so it’s low-stress. Some women want this spanking to be over panties or shorts instead of on the bare, for example, and that’s fine. It’s a chance for us to try a little spanking and see how it feels. It’s not just me and your wife; you would also be involved in whatever way feels right.
The third meeting is the first time I’d give her anything like the spanking you’ve imagined. So that’s why it takes three meetings to get started, and it’s easier if you live in Houston. But if you don’t live in Houston it’s still feasible.
If you are planning on a visit from out of town so I can spank her, we can make all of this work on a weekend’s visit. We would still have the three meetings and they would still be separate, but we’d shorten the time frame. A typical schedule would be for you to fly into Houston on Friday mid-afternoon, although this would also work with you arriving midday Saturday and flying back home on Sunday.
On Friday evening we’d have early dinner together. If that went well, I’d give your wife her first spanking that evening in your hotel room. This would be a low-stress spanking as described above. Then I leave and you and she have a chance to talk over the events of the day and make a final decision on what you want to do with me the next day.
On Saturday we meet for another spanking session, the real one, perhaps more than one session. This is the day we’ve been waiting for.
On Sunday you fly back and we all start to look forward to your next visit.
Your wife’s opinion about this idea
You don’t know how your wife will feel about this idea, and here we face two approaches to the negotiations. One is for you and me to discuss the possibilities, exchange photos and thoughts on the topic, and get a specific proposal drawn up for your wife to consider. The theory behind this is that she’ll respond more favorably if you are already confident that I’m a safe and reasonable person who is willing to make this enjoyable for her.
However, I don’t think that’s the right approach. You of course know your wife and I don’t, but most women want to be involved in the discussion from the beginning, and are much more willing to consider going through with the idea if they feel ownership of the plan. If you’re unsure on how to broach the subject or just what to say I’m happy to discuss that with you.
Let me know how your discussions go.
Best,
Doc