Women visit me for the spanking of their dreams. Some are experienced, others have never spanked or been spanked in their lives. Both are fine.
Distance is a concern, and now and then someone e-mails me to say, “I wish you didn’t live so far away.”
But why allow distance to stand in our way? After all, Houston is centrally located and a major airline hub, and why not? Why not live a little?
Once in a while, I am doing the traveling. This allows impecunious students, and single mothers of young children, to enjoy spanking at home. And I travel a lot...in the next few months I will be visiting Boulder, New York, Detroit, and Washington, DC.
But let's suppose that you're the one looking at airline flight schedules. Allow your imagination to run free. Now you are going to visit so that you can have the spanking experience you want and need.
If you have browsed this web site, you know that I offer intense spankings to women who can't get them at home. But I also enjoy administering milder spankings to women who just want to dip their toe in this erotic experience in a safe setting. Look at this web site as a whole and you'll see how much I want newcomers to feel welcome; that extends to the possibility of visiting for an introductory spanking. I welcome women as they are, no matter where they are in life.
So far everyone who has visited has wanted to be spanked. Some have also wanted to spank me, and that is fine too. If you want to spank me -- and not be spanked yourself -- that's certainly possible. But -- and I get this question quite regularly -- I don't spank men, only women.
Women sometimes worry that they would be unwelcome because they are not fabulously beautiful, or very experienced, or for silly reasons like their embarrassment about getting wet when they are excited. Nobody is physically perfect, and I love it when women become sopping wet when I spank them! So come as you are.
Age is not an issue. I have spanked women from their twenties to their sixties.
Some women need extensive conversation before they decide to come (Satia and my correspondence is one for the record books). Others spend much less time on preliminaries; the record so far is eight days from first e-mail to first meeting.
No two spankings are alike, of course; but if you'd like to listen to a good example of a typical introductory series of spankings, check out Campus Nirvana, which includes eight spankings over three days, lasting a total of 93 minutes, with discussion by Ella of what this was like for her.
Will this actually happen? ... The chemistry, timing, and circumstances are not always right. Sometimes after a few e-mails, it becomes clear to the woman, or to me, that me spanking her is not going to happen. But whether I spank you or not, I can always work to help your spanking dream come true, if not by spanking you myself, then by helping you find someone in your area who can give you the spanking experience that you want.
If you are a woman who's interested in being spanked by a woman, or by a couple, we might be able to arrange that. Steph is a marvelous spanker. She might spank you, or she and I might both spank you ... it's all good! Write me to learn more.
I will not be your boyfriend, your long-term lover, or your spouse.
When women visit me, they learn more about spanking, and about themselves. And they learn more about who they are and who they want to be. That is natural, as it should be.
Ultimately they use that knowledge to build better lives, with other people taking my place as their spanking partners.
I am, in short, a transitional figure.
So what does this mean for you, if I will not be the love of your life?
I will be your spanking partner, and perhaps more than that.
You may consider me your teacher.
You may find healing in our time together.
Whatever happens, I want you to be stronger and clearer as a result of our relationship.
To learn more about what would happen if you visit, check out How it Works
To learn what patty experienced when she visited, click here: patty
Satia visited me on January 19-21, 2007. Our pre-visit negotiations were extensive and offer a remarkable glimpse into our thoughts and feelings as we discussed her upcoming visit: Negotiations . The first time Satia visited, I gave her three major spankings all told, one erotic and two serious. You can read about them--and listen to them--at January, 2007 .
Cat came in search of a perfect spanking in March 2007, and returned in December 2008. Both visits' spankings are posted at Cat.
Trish and I met when I was on a road trip in her neck of the woods. Yes, this is the same Trish who edited "Satia on Spanking."
steph is a regular visitor. Not only do I spank her (very hard indeed), she spanks me as well.
Devora comes now and then.
And there are others . . . Those that want to have their spankings on the web have a place on this website. Those that want to remain out of view are just as special to me, even though they do not appear on this site.
Now and then a married woman is interested in spanking play that is as nonsexual as possible. So, for instance, if you are married and want me to spank you, but want to keep your panties on -- or to remain fully clothed -- and don't want anything explicitly sexual (like masturbation), that's no problem. We'll talk ahead of time about what you need to feel comfortable with your experience with me. I will abide by our agreement (and help you remember if you are in danger of forgetting!).