A therapist or counselor can be invaluable – and here I speak from personal experience. People often struggle to integrate their interest in spanking with the rest of their lives, and their other relationships. It’s not easy! And that’s where a professional comes in.
Going to a counselor does not mean you are mentally ill. It means you are unsure what to do, and are smart enough to seek help.
If you are struggling with a decision that may change your life in profound ways for years to come, it only makes sense to talk it over with a therapist. Someone who is objective and who has talked with other people about their decisions, and who has seen how those decisions play out, for better or worse.
Here’s how I suggest you find a counselor.
First, find THREE therapists who advertise in the gay and lesbian yellow pages or online listings. Someone who spends hours every day talking with gay and lesbians will not be shocked by your interest in spanking.
I do not suggest you look for counselors who claim expertise in sexual addiction. They may have a vested interest in labeling YOU as being addicted. That happened to me once, by a counselor who wanted to get me into her long term (and expensive) group therapy for sexual addicts. I wanted more than a label.
So, find three therapists who advertise to gays and lesbians, and then have an introductory session with all three. Here’s what will happen.
One will be polite and say the right things but something about you will rub them wrong and they won’t be able to hide it.
One will understand your situation, be nonjudgmental, and you will feel better about yourself when you leave.
And the third will not only understand your situation, but will offer helpful suggestions. This person sees your spanking interest as part of who you are, something to be taken into consideration rather than a problem to be eliminated.
If you are contemplating making a big change, it’s worth the modest investment (in time and money) that these three appointments will require.